California, Oklahoma, Texas, & Nevada Therapist
Jennifer Hopes
Quiet Depth. Honest Work. Real Change.
Hi, I’m Jennifer, a therapist for high-achieving adults who feel like they’re constantly holding it all together on the outside and quietly unraveling on the inside.
You might be known for your ambition, your reliability, your strength.
People turn to you. They trust you to fix, to organize, to show up. But beneath that steady exterior lives a constant hum of anxiety and self-doubt. A fear that if you stop performing, it will all fall apart. Maybe lately, the mask is slipping. The energy it takes to “keep it together” is running out. You’re finding it harder to push through, to fake the smile, to meet everyone’s needs before your own. You might even wonder if something’s wrong with you for feeling so overwhelmed when you’re supposed to be grateful for the life you’ve built.
You’re tired, tired from living in survival mode.
My Approach
I work with perfectionists, overachievers, and people-pleasers who are ready to stop living from a place of performance and want to start living from a place of truth.
My approach blends Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic therapy, and attachment-based work, but more than that, it’s grounded in presence, gentleness, and honesty. I believe therapy isn’t about the therapist having all the answers. It’s about creating a space honest enough that we can both be human. My role isn’t to fix or to rush; it’s to slow down with you and listen for what’s real beneath the noise.
Over the years, I’ve learned that healing isn’t about self-optimization or eliminating every flaw. It’s about softening. It’s about learning to stay with yourself, not just in the big moments of insight or change, but in the quiet, ordinary ones too. Much of the work happens in these quiet moments. In a shift in tone, a deeper breath, the pause before you say what’s really there. These small, unhurried shifts are where real change begins to take root.
A Philosophy That’s Evolved
After more than a decade in this work, I don’t see therapy as fixing or managing symptoms. I see it as a process of remembering, of coming home to the parts of you that once had to hide behind achievement, caretaking, or control. In a world obsessed with optimization and speed, my work moves in the opposite direction. It’s slow, relational, and real. We stay with the truth of who you are, not the version you think you should be. Like my clients, I know what it’s like to live from high standards and quiet self-doubt. I’ve had to unlearn my own patterns of urgency and performance too. That’s why I don’t offer perfection; I offer presence.
What Therapy With Me Looks Like
Together we’ll explore:
The parts of you that have learned to perform, perfect, or please
The pain that shaped those parts and what they’ve been protecting you from
The grounded, wise Self that’s been there all along, waiting to lead
No two sessions look the same. We follow what’s alive for you in the moment rather than fitting your experience into a formula. Therapy with me is responsive, intuitive, and uniquely yours. As we slow down together, you’ll begin to experience subtle but lasting shifts, from anxiety to steadiness, from people-pleasing to presence, from self-doubt to quiet confidence.
A Different Kind of Healing
Our bodies often tell the story long before our minds do. Part of our work is learning to listen to those cues, to honor what your body has been trying to say all along. Healing isn’t about reaching a final destination or crossing something off your list. It’s a lifelong invitation, one that asks for gentleness, grit, and grace. It’s learning to hold awe and ache in the same breath. It’s realizing that you can love who you are and still be excited for who you are becoming. I’m not interested in perfection, mine or yours. I’m interested in what’s real, what’s tender, and what’s true. That’s where healing begins.
If you’re tired of holding it all together and ready to feel at home in yourself again, I’d be honored to walk alongside you. Contact me at 661-477-2196.
Fees for Services
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$140 per 45-minutes.
Pay by: Cash, American Express, Discover, HSA, Mastercard, or Visa
A superbill for Out-of-Network services can be provided to submit to your insurance separately for possible reimbursement.
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45 minute - 50 minute sessions
In-Network Plans Accepted for California Residents only:
Aetna, Anthem, Anthem Blue Cross (SISC), Blue Cross, Blue Shield, BlueCross and BlueShield, Empire Blue Cross Blue Shield, Health Net, Managed Health Network (MHN), & MHNet Behavioral Health
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$140 per 45-minutes.
Pay by: Cash, American Express, Discover, HSA, Mastercard, or Visa
A superbill for Out-of-Network services can be provided to submit to your insurance separately for possible reimbursement.
The Therapy Process
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Contact us by phone or email.
We’ll respond within 24-business hours to schedule your free phone intake.
The intake will take 10-30 minutes to complete over the phone. We’ll ask a variety of questions related to your therapy needs. You only have to answer the questions you are comfortable with.
After review of your intake, you’ll be notified that you’ve been connected with a therapist based on your preferences and/or goodness-of-fit. If we think you would benefit from an outside provider then we will notify you and provide contact information for those providers in lieu of our services.
Your therapist will follow-up within 24-business hours to schedule your initial session and provide additional details about your therapy.
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After scheduling your first session, your therapist will send you an email with a link to your client portal. This portal will give you access to all of your documents and billing information, as well as access to your virtual session (if being seen virtually).
Complete the initial documents provided in the portal before your first session begins.
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We will spend the first session reviewing your client rights, business policies, and getting to know one another.
Ask me any questions you might have. I will also take this time to get to know you (e.g. what’s currently bringing you to therapy, your current life circumstances, relevant past experiences, what therapy you might have done in the past, etc.) while exploring what you hope to gain from this experience.
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We will continue to get to know one another in the early sessions of our work.
This will gradually begin to shift as we develop a trusting relationship and explore deeper emotional stuck points for you. Sessions can begin to feel heavier during this phase so we will monitor closely to make sure the pace is right for you.
You may find yourself doing a lot of reflection outside of sessions, while also making behavioral and relational changes, during this phase.
As you gradually develop new ways of understanding yourself, you will begin to feel more rooted in, and more concretely aligned, with Self. You may find yourself able to turn towards previously frustrating parts of yourself with gratitude and compassion. You may find you have more confidence. You may notice that your relationships come with more ease.
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In this phase of treatment, we will review the progress you have made. We will evaluate whether the current treatment goals are still appropriate. We will evaluate whether we need to make adjustments to, remove, or add treatment goals.
If it seems like an appropriate time to pause or stop sessions then we will discuss how you would like to proceed with that.
If it seems that we have more work to do, then we will discuss how you would like to proceed with that.
FAQs
What if I want to go slower in therapy?
I will meet you where you are and go at your pace. The above is simply an example for clients that are eager to do quick work. In my own experience as a client over the years, I too have needed to slow down my therapy progress in order to experience the full breath of my feelings and allow them to wash over me, so I can relate to clients that have similar desires.
What if I am looking for a long-term therapy option?
The majority of my clients are long-term clients that are continuously evolving and working on themselves. The above is simply an example for clients that are eager to do quick work.
What if I decide to stop before the 12-13 sessions?
You are in complete control of your sessions and can stop whenever you are ready, no strings attached. You can come back later, if that is something you are interested in, but there is no obligation to do so and you owe us no explanation.
We encourage clients to discuss this with us, if comfortable doing so. This allows both therapist and client to process goodbyes together, learn if there is something we can do differently in the future, and receive clarity about the early ending.
What if my needs change from one session to the next?
I believe that you should set the pace of the work we do and you also determine what we are working on. That means that you dictate the direction of your session from week to week and bring in what is most pressing for you. My job is to assist you on your journey and guide you to make necessary connections, while keeping your larger therapy goals in the background as a steward in our work together.
In-person and remote options in California, Oklahoma, Texas, & Nevada
Our physical office is conveniently located in Bakersfield, CA. Can’t make it into the office? No worries – we’ve got you covered with online therapy in California, Oklahoma, Texas, & Nevada.